It's Complicated..!

Recently, One evening I was checking my Facebook profile. Facebook asked me about my relationship status. Well, I saw something after which I questioned myself, "Why is it complicated?". Yes, there was this option "It's Complicated". I asked myself, "Would I like to be in a complicated relationship?". The answer was, "NO".

Then I was wondering that who are these people for whom this option is available on Facebook. Do they really like to be in a complicated relationship? Are they happy to be in such a relationship?

Believe it or not folks, the major cause for all the conflicts in our society and the diminishing peace and harmony all around the world, it's due to COMPLICATED RELATIONSHIPS.

Relationships have a very huge impact on our lives but in the 21st century, everything is going more complex day by day and so are our relationships.

Many people might not be aware of the power that we have. The power to choose our relations on our own. Anytime, we can get out of such a relationship which has been a poison to our peace and happiness and choose to be in a relationship where we have a sound state of mind.
Let's trace down the reasons why a relationship becomes complicated, possibly due to:

• Lack of trust.
• Insecurities.
• Lack of emotions.
• Lack of transparency.
• Depression or Anxiety...etc..

And the list goes on.....So there can be a thousand reasons which spoil our time and steals our happiness but we need to analyze and realize that this is not the way life is meant to be lived.
Life is a precious gift and it must be lived to its full extent. Having good relations helps you to explore more, grow more and get the best out of you. So we need to find that ONE REASON that will help us to avoid complications in relationships and stay clear and focused.

The key ingredients for any successful relationship are a willingness to trust in each other, to communicate effectively, be able to apologise when we make mistakes and take responsibility for own behaviour, to maintain a sense of humour and humility and above all to give each other and the relationship time by being actively involved and sharing a significant part of our lives together.
So the question that must be popping in mind is how can we build such relationships. Some factors that you might consider are:

• Time: Give it some time. When the relationship is working or feels right to us we can become complacent. So attending to and being attentive to the other person and to the relationship is critical. Take time to check out with each other how things are and what, if anything, needs to change.
• Self-awareness: Knowing more about yourself helps you to analyze whether you're ready for commitments and responsibilities that are about to come.
• Ability to resolve conflict: At some point in time everyone fights and quarrels, the ability to handle the situation in a positive, constructive and calm manner comes into the picture then. 
• To Listen: Listening requires a great deal of empathy. When we decide to really listen we make ourselves available to that person, thereby demonstrating the importance we are giving to that person and to the relationship. 

Now, as per your experiences, you can think of some other constructive points.

At last,

"Life is a bowl of cherries. Some cherries are rotten while others are good; it's your job to throw out the rotten ones and forget about them while you enjoy eating the ones that are good!"

It's about the TRUST

Yes, it's an emotion which defines our existence, our survival. We trust someone every second of our life. It governs everything. It's the base of your every connection or relation. It's how we truly connect with each other and nature.

Ever wondered why a bird sitting on a tree is not afraid of the branch breaking...? Because her trust is not in the branch, but in her wings. Trust yourself first, just like the bird, before trusting anything outside. 

Without this emotion, I'll always be I and You'll always be you. It makes I and You, US. 

Let's not forget we're in the 21st century and everything is not that sweet and simple as it sounds. Today, the purest kind of emotions can only be seen in nature, excluding HUMANS. 

We, the creatures with the ability of extraordinary imagination and understanding, often mislead the word TRUST with selfish motives.  

Just take a moment, sit back and recall your own experience when you got, "I shouldn't have trusted him/her" thought in your mind. 

Yeah! there it is...

Trust basically means One party (trustor) is willing to rely on the actions of another party (trustee); the situation is directed to the future. The world is cruel guys. Just  'observe' outside friends you'll see indefinite examples in every other corner of the world, the trustor is screwed almost 95% of the time.

 Trust kills faster than a bullet!  

So, my question to you is that Is this the way we're going to have peace and harmony in our lives? Is this the way we're building a better society for our smaller ones..??

Here's an example from our lives,   Our Parents trusts us with the thought that we'll be 100% open and frank with them. Now ask yourself whether someday you'll tell your parents each and everything, every small detail about your life, honestly? No. Obviously, that would fetch a lot of problems. The point is if within the family the trust is not transparent, then how can it be in any relation outside.

Let's start building it.

We're the change. Everythings starts from us. Let's take a moment and think about OURSELF.
Let's make this place where there is no worry, no fear..only peace, harmony, and love. Like a place never been ever before and never could be. You'll make a Change if you start the change at your level.

The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude. – Oprah Winfrey

So,
Be Reliable, Be Trustworthy. 
Caution: Avoid Blind Trust.

A Glance at life

11/2/2018,

So, it's a Sunday evening and each of my friends is going out and having fun and here I'm to share my journey. 
At this stage when I look back 2 years from now, It seems like I've lost a part of me and found a new one. This is the way life works. The lessons you need to learn in your lifespan will be imparted to you in the ways you can't imagine. It may hurt you and it may not, it may be depressing and it may not, whether you want it to happen or not, whether you like it or not, but if it's meant to be, it'll be.

There are moments in life when you're most attached to something/someone or feel like you're attached and that beautiful feeling when you feel like, it completes me and my life. Suddenly, the tables turn. Everything seems to be going away and you're afraid to loose what completes you. That phase, you feel like you're losing control over everything and to try to get control of everything. During that phase, you're terrified, you're lost, you're confused, you're on your own, no one's with you, and its all bullshit.

I guess everyone crosses through this phase during their 20's. Ahh! The amazing time...20's. You get to face, understand and learn a lot of important things about life. Having a broader field of view about how life works make your understanding better.

 Everything has a reason. That's the time you understand that it's only you who matters to you the most. Life has always been unfair and it'll always be. It has never worked our way.

So, it's YOU and your actions that choose best out of everything...so STEP AHEAD and KEEP MOVING.